I read this very true but said quote on another girl's blog and had to re-post it.
"We all have the potential to fall in love a thousand times in our lifetime. It’s easy.
But there are certain people you love who do something else; they define how you classify what love is supposed to feel like. These are the most important people in your life, and you’ll meet maybe four or five of these people over the span of 80 years. But there’s still one more tier to all this; there is always one person you love who becomes that definition. It usually happens retrospectively, but it always happens eventually. This is the person who unknowingly sets the template for what you will always love about other people, even if some of those qualities are self-destructive and unreasonable.
You will remember having conversations with this person that never actually happened. You will recall sexual trysts with this person that never technically occurred. This is because the individual who embodies your personal definition of love does not really exist. The person is real, and the feelings are real—but you create the context. And the context is everything.
The person who defines your understanding of love is not inherently different than anyone else, and they’re often just the person you happen to meet the first time you really, really want to love someone. But that person still wins. They win, and you lose. Because for the rest of your life, they will control how you feel about everyone else."
- Killing Yourself to Live: 85% of a True Story, Chuck Klosterman
Although I am young and i wouldnt't consider myself to be the most knowledgeable when it comes to love or its main concepts, I find true companionship in this excerpt.
Mainly because I find myself questioning 'love' and its values and is it really just a word? I go over past relationships sometimes not able to remember all the bad that happened and only remembering the good although i know for a fact that we experienced enough bad times that we no long could be together.
So now I am in a new relationship and trying to figure out what is love and what is a matter of comfort and convenience is becoming more difficult.
I think overall I just want to be happy, and if one or two small things doesn't meet my ever long list of variables that ALL women create then I can deal with that.
